When I was a kid, I was miserable, hated life, and didn’t think things could improve: I had a traumatic childhood and was teased by other kids for being so “angry.” I knew I couldn’t go the rest of my days with so much negativity, tension, and pain, so I committed to change. And after a decade of studying hundreds of books, journaling thousands of pages, and testing countless strategies, I was able to reinvent my life to be happier than I’ve ever been.
Since becoming self-employed in 2013, I’ve built a successful business, launched numerous side hustles, completed many large projects for several clients at once, and worked far fewer than 40 hours a week while traveling the world and relocating to dozens of cities.
But my secret isn’t earplugs, coffee, “more self-discipline,” or a magical time-management app. (In fact, I don’t use one single productivity tool at all.)
Self-improvement is a double-edged sword.
“If you haven’t read hundreds of books, you are functionally illiterate, and you will be incompetent, because your personal experiences alone aren’t broad enough to sustain you.”
- General Jim Mattis
If your goal is to learn something as fast as possible, you have to transform how you approach everything.
你必须愿意做大多数人通常不做的事情。您必须为自己创造需求。你必须舒服不舒服because your goals are at a completely different level compared to everyone else.
For example, in 2020, I did seven weeks of immersive language learning in France and went from theleast-qualified student in my class to skipping an entire level and reaching the top — while being the只要student working a full-time job simultaneously (on a different continent). …
Well, seven years ago, I became self-employedwith no ideahow to manage my time; but after a lot of trial and error, I was able to build a successful business, launch numerous side hustles, and complete countless projects for many clients at once—while working far less than 40 hours a week and traveling the world full-time.
No, I don’t use any productivity apps and, no, I don’t wake up at 5 AM.
我只是遵循一些简单，高度强度的策略，帮助我飙升我的生产力并获得了最佳结果without依靠WillPower，生产力工具或一加仑咖啡 - 他们也会帮助您。......
日记是提高幸福和心理健康所做的最好的事情之一。它可以帮助你uncover negative patterns, deal with problems, and encourage more positive self-talk. In fact, just the act of getting it out of your head and onto some paper can help you更好地应对压力and evenboost your immune system and healing from injuries.
我开始写日记在4年前,在time since, it created so much healing in my life. I used it to work through countless challenges, memories, and emotions and uncover how they affected me — from repressed anger to low self-esteem—all of which transformed my life and happiness. …
Because even though you have “a lot of time,” the years of your youth are still critical for what you do in the rest of your life:
You only have two choices in life: Live the life others expect of you or live the life you want.
One path is无限地harder than the other and requires courage, risk, and a lot of pain. Yet only one leads you to true freedom, fulfillment, and joy.
While some make it seemeasy以自己的方式生活，我可以从个人经历中说，这可能是你最困难的事情。为什么？
To do what everyone tells you to do, that’s easy; but to change, that’s hard. And to change your lifelong beliefs, that takes serious discomfort: The discomfort of leaving your previous life, the life you shared with your friends, the life your family taught to you, and the life everyone wants you to live—except yourself. …
I had my plan set: I would go to a top university, study business, and work on Wall Street for a few years; then I would get an MBA and have a great, lucrative career.
Recently, a high school kid asked me for some life advice. To help him, I asked more about what they wanted to do and what was going on in their life. They came across as a very ambitious and driven person. …
Yet many people are motivated by the wrong reasons. Because of this, no matter what they accomplish in life, they'll never find the fulfillment, joy, or peace of mind they wanted all along.
但是有一个动机 - 我已经看到了一手次 - 这令人惊讶的是常见的，并且可以以无数的方式破坏你的幸福。
You see, nowadays, seemingly nothing can happen without someone posting about it on social media. …