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I’m Alexander

I’m a Medium Top Writer in Psychology, Mental Health and Self Improvement with a degree in psychology and certified in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). I previously trained in hypnotherapy.

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I’ve come from a place of personal social anxiety, anxiety, occasional depression, low self-esteem and more. Also laziness and lack of direction.

I beat it. I’m better now. I’m happy now. I think better. Things are clearer. I’m still lazy sometimes, but that’s ok.

I want to help others do that. I hope I can provide…


Big changes solve problems. Then you move on to tackle bigger problems. So if the problems keep getting bigger, what’s the point?

用放大镜检查的男人的概念图。
用放大镜检查的男人的概念图。

I had an amazing introduction to the whole self-help thing. I’d never really even heard of it. Yet, while reading an introduction to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) book, I felt like I was having revelation after revelation.

它真的感觉很神奇。

我从人生的低谷中走出来,我会致力于让自己成为一个更好的人。我一直致力于直到我最终成为一个自信、快乐的人。

It continued for years. I found more books from all sorts of angles. More self-help. I learned about all kinds of therapy. Things really felt like they were changing.


In screenwriting, we sometimes call character flaws ‘humanity’ and use them to make people likeable.

我们可以花太长时间去思考我们的缺点。我花了二十年时间在我的身上。自助行业的大部分工作都是帮助我们摆脱这些缺陷(或者给我们这种错觉),这样我们在他们离开后会更快乐。

But what if they weren’t just flaws at all? What if they come with a plus side we’ve never considered?

What if the things we hate about ourselves are the same things that make others like us?

小说和剧本写作的一个重要教训就是这样。我们写人物不完美,以吸引读者或观众…


MENTAL HEALTH

你不舒服的部分不是整个故事,也不是你的全部。

I was halfway through a producing a six-week film shoot, and I felt like I was falling apart. It was the most stressful thing I’ve ever done. I was hiding in the bathroom with wet eyes, working out how to get the strength to get back out there and get things done.

然后我意识到。从数学上说,我几乎在任何方面都很好。我很快感觉好多了——好得可以走出浴室回到正轨。你仍然可以在沃尔玛的廉价品箱里找到那部可怕电影的DVD…


Therapy with psychedelics is expensive and restricted. Now it’s just illegal.

I have a ridiculous memory of my Ayahuasca journey, watching one of the guides walk around the room without a head. His long neck just rounded off smoothly at the top.

There was another crazy moment where, as the solitary English-only speaker there, a guide forgot and spoke to me in Dutch. Under the psychedelic influence, she sounded like she was speaking something more like Elvish from Lord of the Rings, complete with magical sound effects.

But the guides, when they did have heads and weren’t speaking in tongues, were incredible. They made me feel very safe in my first…


为什么有时候我们不能停止

The Crown Court, 2014

As the trial reached a critical moment, I ducked down, giggling, behind the man in front of me. I was failing to hide my laughter from the packed court, managing to keep my head low, but not the volume. The people who sat with me were holding back giggles too, but because laughter is contagious, they couldn’t hold it in either. The judge couldn’t help but notice us – the giggling jury – bouncing around on the benches. Hearing adjourned.

在一名男子被划桨打死的袭击者的审判中,我当时…


Wouldn’t life be so much better if your inner voice was always kind?

我会搞砸的。我几乎在沙发上流泪,不知该怎么办。每个人都恨我。很久以前,我甚至记不起我做了什么。但我能准确地记得接下来发生了什么。

A friend sat next to me and said one sentence:

“你知道每个人都爱你,对吧?”

等等,什么?我的思路被从轨道上拉下来,就这样,一切都感觉好了。我内心的声音创造了一个叙事,坚持下去,从没有任何东西中找到证据,我花了一天时间来寻找它。所有…


幸福可以从unexp找到我们ected places

This isn’t a list of books about happiness, but a list of books about an array of other things, that somehow led me to happiness. Happiness can come from the most unexpected places.

下面是我列出的七本让我更快乐的好书,还有一些教训和见解,也许也能帮到你。

1漫画工具箱——约翰·沃豪斯

这本书关于创作喜剧的标语说:怎么搞笑,即使你不“但是这本关于幽默写作的书在一系列创造幸福的书上做了什么呢?”?嗯,就是这样:

喜剧不是一个…


The pandemic has unexpected implications for our relationship with technology

Have you found yourself being particularly polite to Siri recently? Had an argument with Alexa but then apologised and made up? Well, it seems that under the stress of the pandemic, we’re going that way. Kindness is on the rise. Even to machines.

研究人员looking at the link between Covid and kindness selected participants who had been affected by the disease, and got them to play something called独裁者的游戏, a popular game you’ll find in studies about kindness and altruism. …


Phone addicts spend almost half their waking hours on their phones

自从手机问世以来,就有传言说他们能对我们的大脑做些什么。起初,人们对辐射的担忧,但自从智能手机和社交媒体出现以来,手机成瘾已经成为大脑变化问题的前沿。

这是你可能对你的大脑所做的。

Free Dopamine at the Validation Station

That little bell. The notification symbol. The message icon. They all entice us to check in with the promise of a little dopamine hit or some validation from someone somewhere in the world.

多巴胺是什么?

Dopamineferries messages through our brain, especially ones that make us feel good. We get little dopamine hits…

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