Try out a few different approaches. — The choice of relaxation technique depends on your personality and needs. When should you relax? It is important to consider when any of the following symptoms occur: fatigue, loss of concentration, sore or aching muscles, increased irritability or impatience, headache, and mental overload. It is also important to practice relaxation at a time when you feel calm and free of distractions. If you still have problems, see a relaxologist for advice or training.