White fragility and interracial coupling do not go hand in hand — On our third date, the man who would become my husband told me, “You get it.” The “it” he was referring to was racism. At the time, I was flattered to have a Black person acknowledge my wokeness. But I’ve since realized that three dates in, I didn’t really get…

12,000 flight cancelations are only the tip of the fast-melting iceberg — I’m currently on hold with Alaska Airlines. It’s the second time I’ve called in the span of two weeks. The first time, I waited over three hours to talk to a representative. I’m expecting the hold time to be at least as long this time around. I shouldn’t complain, really…

Spoiler alert! This post will spoil the entire season if Shonda Rimes takes my pitch — Season 3 of Bridgerton begins predictably with the high society of London preparing for yet another wedding season. …

Let’s start right here on Medium — In late April 2020, I stumbled across an article in The Nation entitled, “The Men Pushing to Open the Economy Clearly Don’t Need Child Care.” The story was both funny and infuriating, and it resonated deeply with me. At the time, my son’s preschool and my daughter’s elementary school were…

Our mental health crisis is more acute than in other high-income countries — and more therapists, drugs, or guns won’t solve it — We are not well. We are anxious, we are angry, we are depressed. We are teetering on the brink. We are emotionally agitated, mentally distressed. Everything is on the rise: Road rage, substance use, mass shootings. …

I spent years obsessing over everything I was doing “wrong.” Now I focus on leveraging my natural strengths instead. — I’ll be honest — I feel like an epic failure as a parent these days. In the course of two months, my newly 11-year-old daughter has suddenly become the “problem child” at school. Being the parent of a problem child, I’ve learned, is an unenviable position. It’s also a lot…

In a culture that worships a**holes, nice is a four-letter word — “I hate to tell you this,” my boyfriend’s ex told me on the phone with a dramatic sigh. I was quite sure that she couldn’t wait to tell me “this,” whatever it was. “But he just thinks you’re nice.” She spat out the word “nice” like it would leave a…

It’s not a real choice when it’s based on false promises and incomplete information — It wasn’t until my second trimester that I learned the United States has no federal paid leave program. You can certainly place the blame on me for not investigating this matter sooner. Some people have. …

5 tips for pathetically partying like a pro — The best thing about a pity party is that you’re the only guest. That means you don’t have to worry about sending invitations or coordinating with other people’s schedules. As much as you might wish that someone else would take the initiative to throw you a pity party — which…